I object

On my way back from work I bumped into a friend of a friend (LL) and we started talking as we walked towards the bus stop.

I can’t remember much of what we talked about I had a massive portion of chicken Biryani for lunch and was feeling rather sleepy. That was till we somehow got to, how she recently saw one of her best friend that she had not seen for awhile, because she got married and I quote

“Her husband was a little strict and wouldn’t let her see her friends” unquote.

I must have pulled a face of shock or utter disbelieve or maybe it was a twitch but either way I was quickly informed.

“ She was a free spirit before! But once you get married that is it”

By now I must have been twitching uncontrollably because LL looked really worried and proceeded to jubilantly tell me, that her friend remained patient and alhamdullah she is able to see SOME of her friends again!

At this point I am wide awake and I had a few thoughts going through my ahead, such as

1) Why did he marry a strong willed women and then proceed to break her spirit?
2) Would it not have been easier for him to marry a tame woman in the first place?
3) Is he in fact a sadist?
4) Was he bullied as a child for not being Manly enough?
5) Why not just choose women who are running short on the friends department?

What nonsense is this? I hope for the sister concerned he was worth the sacrifice?

How insulting that after he has chosen you and you have chosen him he decides he doesn’t like your friends although the prophet (saw) said if you want to know a person look at their friends? What is he trying to say? He doesn’t like you or worse some bits of you are fine but the rest need to be radically changed? The audacity?

And brothers complain that women try to change them after marriage!! Well am citing this as an example of brothers trying to change sisters!

Once again am tempted to call the brother a LOSER but I shall refrain and continue with the 70 excuses only 65 to go eh?

Recall

I was browsing through Maryram duale’s blog titled “The Bus” when I remember this situation:

MM and I where on the 111 bus, when the bus was about to stop at our bus stop MM saw a women she thought she recognized and when we stood up to get off, she walked over to this women eagerly (anticipating the greeting) when MM stroked this women’s arm to gain her attention, which she most certainly did.

When the women turned around she wasn’t MM’s friend in fact MM had no idea who this women was!!

Of course I had to intercede, but I couldn’t resist (only human after all) I turned to the women, gave her an apologetic smile. Grabbed MM’s arm and marched her off saying (loudly enough for half the bus to hear)

“M why haven’t you take your medication again…You know what the doctor said?!

I turned around to see the women MM had stroked, holding her arm and looking rather scared!!

MM looked at me shocked and kept mumbling over and over again in Somali that she was SO embarrassed her legs were failing her and she couldn’t walk!

wadnihii baa' i gaririya,ma soconikaro,shaki baa' igalay;laabati baa' istaagtay

It’s fair to say that it was one of the funniest moments of my life but MM didn’t see it that way she still remembers the look on the women’s face (Classic)…To this day when she remembers she threatens to get me back but hasn’t managed to do so!!

I am still waiting MM

WOOHOO

Salam ppl ( a greating of peace used by us Moselms a.ka Muslims )

my first ever blog!!

okay I am a little excited, i like getting to grips with new things and any day now the world of blogging wont just sound like a laymans term for some terrible viral desease.

A little about myself then......erm..... oh i graudated may of this year and was really lucky to get a cool job...basically I am working on a women's project funded by the ESF, which means i get to go to European countries on BUSINESS, lol free mini breaks moro like, my first transnational trip was to Belgium strange ppl but very friendly and the CHOCOLATE my God, May God bless the chocolatiers!!)

anyway i found out my project which comes under youth only had the one trip!!! Imagine my horror when i heard this, i was almost heart broken so i did a little Investigating and found out that the other partnership disability and health has 4 trips to destination like Italy and France, so I sent this email to the head dude.

I must mention in my defence that this is highly plausible


"Hi Bob
Hope this finds you in the best of health
Just wanted to let you know that my project may need to be linked with both the Urban youth and Employment partnerships as the preliminary work and general info gathering is pointing towards the women choosing something health related i.e. a health centre or something of that nature.
Naima."




I got this reply


"Hi Naima
You mean you fancy more trips?
Anyway, we are booking for the trip at the moment - this is the initial meeting and we're booked up with the disability-related partners currently. However, don't despair, there will be plenty of opportunity to join various study groups on various issues over the next 2 years, and you are welcome to join any of those. I will keep you informed as to the progress
Hope everything is good with you.
Best regards"

And in Ramadan as well, what was i thinking ( oh yeah the free trip to france)

i really should go now am at work but i have the to go to present the children's show on the local community radio at 3pm

Naima

peace out (Wasalam)