Recently I have noticed that people say “you know me” a lot in the middle of a sentence when they are about to divulge some information that they would assume you would have gathered from being in the company.
When ever someone says this to me I stand there suppressing the need to say “no I don’t”. I have been trying to work out why I react so strongly to the phrase, most of the time when someone reveals something after having used the phrase “you know me” its something that you have already gathered. Especially if I have known someone for a long time and their behaviour patterns are stable and thus predictable.
I have come to the conclusion that we can’t really know anyone because individually we are all trying to get to know ourselves and hence ourselves isn’t ridged or fixed and changes as we learn and grown.
I think we most certainly have a core self but in order to access this we must pass several layers which make up a person.
Our perceptions are derived from the impressions a person gives us, or the side of their being they choose to share, sometimes this is deliberate and sometimes its not. When it’s deliberate our perception (if we can’t see through the ploy) are not objective. Is all we know about a person what they want us to know?! Hmm
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
Posted by NM at Wednesday, April 26, 2006