Wednesday, April 26, 2006

How much do we really know anyone?


Recently I have noticed that people say “you know me” a lot in the middle of a sentence when they are about to divulge some information that they would assume you would have gathered from being in the company.

When ever someone says this to me I stand there suppressing the need to say “no I don’t”. I have been trying to work out why I react so strongly to the phrase, most of the time when someone reveals something after having used the phrase “you know me” its something that you have already gathered. Especially if I have known someone for a long time and their behaviour patterns are stable and thus predictable.

I have come to the conclusion that we can’t really know anyone because individually we are all trying to get to know ourselves and hence ourselves isn’t ridged or fixed and changes as we learn and grown.

I think we most certainly have a core self but in order to access this we must pass several layers which make up a person.

Our perceptions are derived from the impressions a person gives us, or the side of their being they choose to share, sometimes this is deliberate and sometimes its not. When it’s deliberate our perception (if we can’t see through the ploy) are not objective. Is all we know about a person what they want us to know?! Hmm

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

If we can be true to ourself if we give up our own basal instinct then possibly we would have gained an insight into our own path and the rest is destiny (qadr). Where takwah exists then the truth will always reside all else is a misnomer.

NM said...

I know the post is pessimistic, I was having a rant is not really my world view, bit of a bad day jazakallah khayr though

Anonymous said...

What got you so riled NM?

NM said...

I learnt something positive about a friend who writes poetry but you would never guess, she keeps it a closely guarded secret. During the same day I learnt something about someone else that didn’t seem to fit the pictures but this wasn’t positive and it really annoyed me.

Anonymous said...

ouch, i hope this does not change your feelings toward the other person

NM said...

What I really need is a good verbal fight to clear the air and allay a few misunderstanding but I am not in position to be able to do that. So I guess the blog is my indirect verbal assault. (Sounds quite manic actually)

Black Rose said...

Personalities are like the threads of a fishing net, they are interwined (and trap) occasionaly a break forms on a thread but usually it can be mended.

I pray you are able to help the individual with the broken thread NM.....after all given time all of us will sure break a thread.

We can never fully know someone for a person doesn't ever fully know themselves to begin with. We are a product of our beliefs and circumstances.......and these change with time.

NM said...

Black rose i think we both probably had a few broken thread on this day, but inshallah it will sort itself out... i think it already has